No self-confidence, fear of addressing or tackling things, paralysis, or insecurity: In tailor-made personal confidence coaching you will find courage and energy again.
Self-confidence, self-assurance and courage to live your own life
What is the greatest wish of people who are dying and looking back on their lives? Australian dying companion Bronnie Ware asked dying people what their regrets are most. Number one is the wish “to have had the courage to live my own life”. Many of the people complained that they too often lived up to the expectations of others instead of standing up for themselves. “If only I had dared to show my true thoughts, ideas and feelings, to live authentically and honestly and to show myself.”
So we hold ourselves back! We allow ourselves to be hypnotized by others’ expectations (real or even imagined) and let our fears rule our lives, only to find bitterly that our life is now over and that we’ve lived completely past it.
If you are very influenced by the opinions of others in your life, here is an inspiring text on how you can free yourself from the judgments and opinions of others.
There is a lack of self-confidence, self-confidence and self-assurance
Many think as the famous Austrian comedian Karl Valentin put it: “We might have wanted to, but we shouldn’t have dared.” There are a few myths about self-confidence: that it is innate, that some people have it and the others don’t and that you can’t learn it.
However, self-confidence, self-confidence and self-confidence are indeed learned qualities. This also means that we can change them, just like other characteristics, through targeted practice and learning: instead of training the upper arm muscles, we train our self-confidence muscles. This is what coaching is about to boost self-esteem, self-confidence and self-efficacy.
Increased self-confidence and self-esteem and strengthen self-efficacy
In addition to the expectations of others, it is often also fear of failure, excessive demands on ourselves and inhibiting and paralyzing beliefs that prevent us from doing the things that we actually want to do or from doing them in the way that suits us. This often means that we only live a fraction of our potential or, to put it figuratively, only run on three of a total of eight cylinders. The consequences are tiredness, lack of motivation and enterprising spirit and paralysis. You want to find your way out of this dilemma.
We all know it, the inner voice that belittles us, devalues us, nags us or otherwise criticizes us: our inner critic. It is very persistent and not easy to turn off. Ignoring doesn’t work either. Because the inner critic leads a life of its own like a parasite.
That is why coaching to strengthen self-confidence, self-esteem, self-assurance, self-awareness and self-efficacy is about learning to deal differently with our inner critic: namely, not avoiding him, but entering into a dialogue with him, him listening, but also arguing, negotiating and standing up to him. The goal is not introspection, but self-efficacy and concrete action on the outside.
We often see our weaknesses and deficits in particular. On the other hand, it is important to focus on our strengths and talents.
Healthy self-confidence and self-esteem lead to self-efficacy
Self-confidence, self-assurance, self-esteem, self-esteem and self-efficacy have nothing to do with always being right, but with not being afraid of being wrong. What belongs to an intact self-confidence, a healthy self-confidence and self-esteem, an intact self-confidence and what are the necessary ingredients so that we can experience self-efficacy?
- I know how to protect myself and can say no if necessary.
- I perceive my needs, desires, feelings, opinions, views, ideas, values and boundaries, show them and stand up for them.
- I am indulgent with myself and forgive my missteps and mistakes.
- I deal with criticism in a good way, which means I learn from justified criticism and know how to protect myself against unjustified criticism.
- I don’t sabotage myself.
- I have the courage to try things and take risks and this gives me experiences from which I can learn
- Even with a headwind, I don’t give in immediately but remain steadfast.
- My attitude is “I can do it. Or I can learn it.” And I know: “I don’t have to be able to do everything right away. Because what I can’t do yet, I will acquire.”
- I turn problems into opportunities – not the other way around.
Especially in crises, it is important to allow uncertain thinking, because otherwise, we will only continue in the familiar footsteps.
Are you interested in coaching where you learn to increase your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-confidence and self-efficacy?
More tips for inspiration and orientation (books and links)
Here is a self-confidence test. The lower your score, the higher your confidence and vice versa. If you want to change something about your results, here is the good news: self-confidence, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-assurance and self-efficacy can be trained. You can learn to accept yourself better, have more confidence in yourself and achieve your goals more easily.
Coaching to strengthen self-confidence, self-assurance, self-confidence, confidence and self-efficacy is about taking the risk of taking concrete steps in life, because we can only learn something by starting to do it. For your inspiration, here is an exercise to help you build your confidence, self-esteem, and self-assurance.
The strengthening of self-confidence, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-assurance and self-efficacy always has a context. Therefore, one or the other of my other main areas of work usually also plays a role in this topic: dealing with stress and burnout prevention, work and self-organization as well as setting priorities, leadership coaching, position determination and career coaching, coaching in a crisis or in conflicts, communication & self-assertion or SMEs -Coaching.